Breaking the chains of addiction can be very difficult. The victim of addiction may try and fail again and again. They may become discouraged. That is why the support of family and friends is so very important. The addict may be ashamed of their behavior or feel like a failure, especially if they have stumbled along the road to recovery. They may feel like they have let down the people who are dearest to them. They may even begin to feel like they’re just a burden and a problem for other people in their life.
It is especially in moments like this when the recovering addict is most in need of the support of their family and friends. When they begin to feel like they have failed the people whom they love the most, that’s exactly when they are most in need of the support and encouragement of those they love. If you’re feeling strong and healthy, you’re not likely to go to the hospital. People go there when they’re suffering or in pain. When the addict is suffering from shame and feeling like a failure, they need the ‘medicine’ of the support of their loved ones.
In the 15th chapter of the Gospel according to Matthew, Jesus encourages us to confront a fellow Christian when we see them doing wrong. If they won’t listen to you, then you should bring somebody else with you so that you can both challenge their behavior. If this doesn’t work, they you should bring the matter to the attention of the Christian community. This may sound harsh and the point isn’t to ‘tell on’ people, but that isn’t really the way it was meant. The point is for the community to gather supportively around the sinner so that they will know that they are cared for. That is exactly the kind of support that the victim of addiction needs. They need to know that there are people out there who love and care for them.
It is not some unknown person out there, it’s you, the one reading this, who may need help and support. You may be dealing with the pain of failure. You may be ashamed of your addictive behavior. You may have brought suffering into the lives of those whom you love. Nonetheless, these are the very people to whom you must reach out for support and love. That takes courage, but it’s something you need to do.
For some guidance on how to build a support system for recovery, please go to https://blogs.psychcentral.com/addiction-recovery/2012/02/5-steps-social-support-system/